Getting Rid of the Resolution Hype

Where are you at on your resolutions for this year? Yeah…I scrapped my list before it ever really got started.

So, I choose not to make resolutions anymore. Mainly, it’s because I am completely inadequate at achieving them, and frankly, remembering them past February hasn’t served me well, either.

This decision has left me feeling a little substandard to all of the people at the gym beginning January 1, and all the people marking book after book off of their list each month. So, I decided to focus on my daughter, where my focus typically is anyway. I decided to make a Mom’s To Do list (as if I don’t have enough of those already, but what’s one more). This “resolution” list is more of an improvement project than anything else. Things on my self-performance evaluation from 2016 that I need to do better with in 2017.

I don’t know if I’ll be able to make these happen in the ten months that remain of this year, but I’m certainly going to give it my best shot.

  • Draw closer to God, and help my daughter draw closer to Him, as well.

    This one I can check off. A couple weeks ago, my daughter asked Jesus into her heart. Two nights ago, we were both baptized together. It was an emotional experience, and I am so very thankful for it. It’s my job to make sure she grows not only physically and emotionally, but spiritually as well.

  • Help her experience an ’80’s/’90’s childhood.

    Sounds silly, but she needs it. Here’s why: she is six and complains of being bored if she doesn’t have something to do. It drives me CRAZY. So, I am going to do my part to make a change before it becomes a habit. I can remember going outside for HOURS when I was a kid, and coming inside to watch cartoons was more of a punishment than a privilege. I want her to enjoy being outside, exploring. Plan day trips for short hikes, bike rides, etc. I can remember aggravating my grandmother in the mornings because I wanted to go outside and play so badly, but she would always make me wait until the dew dried from the yard. It drove me nuts. Today’s kids (including mine) want a screen in front of them or someone to entertain them constantly. The other day, driving down the road, my daughter literally told me she was going to be bored because I wouldn’t let her watch a cartoon on the iPad. Y’all, I about lost my religion. Apparently, I have enabled my little nugget already, and I have some undoing to do. So, this is a “resolution” I really must keep.

  • Letting my daughter be a little kid every once in a while.

    Boy, I really need to do this more often. My daughter is already in an accelerated reading program at school, and she is in kindergarten. She’s a smart girl, but I push her like crazy, because she is “capable.” What I tend to dismiss is that she is also six, not 12. I forget that what I looked forward to most in kindergarten was playground time and lunch time with my friends. I looked forward to kickball, field day, and trading pudding cups for ice cream. While I still feel it is important to push her, I need to remember what it was like to be six again. The world is much different now, and she needs to enjoy her childhood.

  • Stop being in such a “hurry up” mode all the time.

    Life is so busy these days, with school, work, activities, friends, family, church, etc. I feel like I am in a hurry most days. I need to take the time to slow down and enjoy the little things more often than being concerned about getting to the next place or activity.

I hope if you made resolutions that you are making progress on them. And if you’re not, maybe you can take one of my simple goals for this year and make them your own.

At the end of the day though, we don’t have to set resolutions to be a successful mom, wife, etc. We need only to be present and to enjoy what life brings us during these childhood years with our littles because before we blink and these years are gone.

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