Our little guy is only 10 months old, but already, we’ve seen him transition into and out of so many stages. And we know this is only the beginning, with so many more to come! We’ve been in the ‘babble-talk’ stage for some time now, with recent “Ma Mas” and “Da Das” much to our hearts’ delight, as you well know! I love his sweet little voice, and I must admit, I greatly look forward to being able to verbally communicate with my baby boy.
As parents, there are so many things we spin our wheels thinking about when it comes to raising our children: instilling faith; providing; educating; creating memories; living in the moment; savoring the moment; balancing work, family and career; and all of the other many aspects of life that come weighing in on us now that we are the ones responsible for the development of another human’s life!
Although we’re just in the phase of putting sounds together, I’ve decided there are a few words that I’m desperate for my child to learn to say. To say . . . and mean!
1.) I’m Sorry. Two seemingly simple words, but two that prove incredibly challenging for a lot of people to muster up. Most of us are taught these words as children, in our parents’ quest to help us ‘mind our manners,’ but did we really learn what it means to actually be sorry? Not only do I want our guy to be willing to utter those words, but I want him to be able to mean them! A willingness to be sorry is a willingness to sometimes be wrong and to accept responsibility for a situation. When not in the wrong, the willingness to apologize is a willingness to recognize that we played a part in the compromising of someone’s feelings. It’s a willingness to refrain from apportioning blame, from focusing on cause rather than effect and from neglecting the potential damage done. It’s a willingness to allow ourselves to feel what another felt.
2.) Please and Thank You! Perhaps two of the first words we work to teach our littles. We want them to be polite and gracious afterall, right? I can recall my Grandmother playing a song for us (on the record player) time and time again when we were little. “Two little magic words, you can open any doors with these, one little word is thanks and the other little word is please!” ‘Please’ and ‘Thank You’ are staples here in the south and do speak volumes of the person who chooses to use them regularly. But again, not only do I want our Miniature to say these words, I want him to mean them! Please – a word that shows that I don’t believe I’m entitled, and Thank You – words that mean I appreciate something and that I’m truly aware of another’s blessing, sacrifice and act of kindness.
3.) Can I Help? I think these words are incredibly important and for many reasons. The words “Can I help” say much about the person using them. For starters, it says I’m here and I’m willing. It says, I recognize a need, and I’m willing to work to address it (regardless of whether or not I will enjoy it!) To offer help to someone is to put another’s comfort before our own. To help someone is to give sacrificially is some way, shape or form. Yes, I want our son to be willing to say these words to be polite, of course, but I really want him to say these words because he wants to bless someone other than himself.
4.) I Love the Lord. Last, but certainly not least. If I could hear these words from my child, I could die a completely happy Momma. I happen to think that the word ‘love’ is incredibly overused in today’s world, and unfortunately, incredibly misused. Do we TRULY love every person we say those words to? For my child to first grasp the concept of true love and all that it (unconditionally) entails, would be a wonder in and of itself. But for him to grasp it and turn that affection to the Lord, something that isn’t in our nature to do, would in fact, be the greatest blessing imaginable.
For now, we’ll stick with the random “Ma Mas” and “Da Das,” but my hopes are set on the basic/not-so-basic words above!