I’m at work, the phone has been ringing off the hook, and I feel completely scattered. On Wednesdays, I don’t work my normal job, but rather I fill in for the company receptionist who works Saturdays instead. In addition to answering her phones and working with the sales associates today, I’ve just licked my fingers clean after polishing off an entire Brixx Margherita pizza in less than five minutes (no exaggeration) while working through numerical details with a mortgage investor over the phone, in between incoming calls, and if honest, I haven’t really had a chance to think through what I’m about to write here. I reached my multi-tasking limit today . . . a long time ago.
Ironically, this post is about this very thing; the fact that time is of the essence, life is busy and Motherhood is a balancing act! Maybe the greatest balancing act of all time.
Becoming a mom brings with it so many changes and responsibilities, but once a mother, our concerns, obligations and responsibilities are no longer confined to our own lives. Nor is our time! Suddenly, it feels like every minute counts and that time is a priceless commodity! Once a mom, the details matter!
Motherhood by itself is a HUGE responsibility, a massive undertaking, as are the normal responsibilities that are associated with it! When thinking about the need for balance, motherhood in itself requires us to find a balance between keeping the laundry under control, giving out lots of lovin’, cooking dinner for the fam, keeping the house tidy, sticking on the band-aids, playing with the kids, grocery shopping, changing the toilet paper rolls, doling out baths, etc. You get the idea. But more than that, there is a need for balance between the great expectations I place upon myself and the more realistic aspirations of being a good mom. And then there’s the rest of life! The life outside of Motherhood. There’s work, there’s family and there
is was a personal life!
Some weeks, the normal 40-hour work week is tweaked a bit and a few more hours in the office is necessary. And some nights, I find myself either spending time thinking about work, following up with something work-related and or doing other things pertaining to additional obligations I’ve taken on. But there has to be a balance between motherhood and work, and this is just as true for you SAH moms! All of those details that make up our day and keep us busy from the wee morning hours to ‘all night long,’ have to be reeled in, taped off and given boundaries! We owe it to ourselves to have down time at home with our families (children, specifically) and during a time when we’re not in work mode! Is it ever hard for you to relax due to feeling like there is still so much to do?
Family! Since becoming a mom, I have fallen off the charts as a granddaughter, a niece, a cousin, a sister and a daughter! The sad reality is that some days, I have to admit, that I’ve dropped in ranking on the wife chart too, meaning that I just don’t get to spend the same amount of time with family (and husband) the way that I used to. There’s a balance between motherhood and family! When you do finally wrap up the work day and then spend the next several hours, feeding, bathing, walking, rocking, playing and or singing with your little, sometimes you just don’t have the energy to pick up the phone to chat with those family members you don’t get to see as often. Days turn into weeks and weeks into months, and before you know it, a lot of time has passed since you’ve slowed down long enough to simply enjoy the company of your loved ones. There has to be a balance between motherhood and family!
Friends! Who? What? Something bizarre happened when I had a baby…all of my friends disappeared! I was like, “Where did everyone go?” And then I thought, “Wait, where did I go”? Truth is, we all became mothers! Day to day life changed overnight, literally, for all of us and time is now a precious commodity and something that none of us have a lot of! But you know, Motherhood can be a lonely place without the interaction of friends; there has to be a balance between being a mom and being a friend! I need and want to be better at this!
Life is busy and Motherhood too. There’s a lot to accomplish in a day’s time and the unfortunate reality is that not everything will fit in. Relationships will suffer, projects will take longer, deadlines may be surpassed and the house will be, at times, a wreck!
Finding a good balance will sometimes mean finding the ability to let some things go!